Marriage can be a beautiful thing and certainly something to be enjoyed. But no relationship is perfect and sometimes your spouse will say something that gets on your nerves.
For the husbands, below is a list of 10 things better left unsaid to your wife.
1 My mom does things this way
Your mom may be a wonderful woman, but you are not married to her. Please, respect your wife for the woman she is and the differences that make her special.
2 You’re acting like your mother
In truth, she may at times act like her mother, but she doesn’t want to be told that in a negative, condescending way, which not only is degrading to her, but also her own mother. Not to mention these are fighting words. You’ve been warned!
3 It’s your job to handle the kids
When you say statements like this, you imply that she doesn’t work at all. Children need parents who work together as a team giving them a stable home and loving environment.
4 It’s my money
You are married. You share a home and a life. If you choose to keep accounts separate, make sure to share in the responsibilities. You are a team. You both share the burden and the benefits.
5 Why can’t you be more like…?
Comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t compare her to an ex-wife/girlfriend, movie star, or your best friend’s wife. She is not them.
6 Why are you doing it that way?
When we are working on something we care about or pour a lot of time into, we look to our husband for encouragement and validation. What you don’t want to do is start critiquing how your wife is going about her project. Avoid making statements that call into question her ability; this will significantly discourage her. It’s ok to compliment and then ask “have you ever thought of trying this?” This approach encourages her and leads to bettering each other, rather than critiquing.
7 Maybe you should go on a diet
If your wife has gained a little weight or a lot of weight, she more than likely already knows that she has and is trying to deal with it in her own way.
8 What do you do all day?
What she does all day is take care of the children, the house and many other responsibilities. Don’t think for a second that whether she works outside of the home or in the home that her job ever ends. Please, appreciate all the little things she does to keep your home in working order.
9 I am trying to watch the game
This is the loudest way you can tell your wife she is less important than the TV. Try kindly asking her if she could wait until a commercial to talk, and if not, pause the game or turn it off. In the end, it’s just a game.
10 Can’t you keep the kids under control?
First, they are not just her kids. They are yours too. This comment puts all the responsibility of raising the kids on your wife. Children are not an inconvenience, they are a blessing from God.