Kaffy speaks on failed marriage

Kaffy

Dancer Kafayat Shafau aka Kaffy has confirmed publicly that her marriage to her husband Joseph Ameh has crashed.

The 41-year-old said this in a podcast published on Monday.

According to her, marriage is supposed to be an alignment of destinies but hers didn’t work out that way.

In the podcast, Kaffy stated that divorce and separation must not be toxic or bitter and marriage is a beautiful alignment of purpose.

“I have always wanted to see my ex be the best version of himself and even breaking up the marriage was also to see that we both grew into what we really are supposed to be. Marriage is supposed to be an alignment of destinies driving towards a place that God wants us to be and mine really did not work out that way.

“Rather than looking at somebody as a problem, you could be the problem of that person. Being an enabler of someone not being able to do what they are supposed to do can also be that you are not supposed to be in that space.

“So, there was a lot to learn and there is still a lot more to learn. I want to express that and motivate you to understand that life is not all about reaction to the world; it is not about reacting to what want you to say or what the world wants to hear; what the world wants you to be or what the world wants you to wear; what the world wants you to look like or get married,” she said.

Speaking further, she wrote: “Separation isn’t the end of life for both parties involved. Infact if you are both honest about why you have to go apar, you’ll realise how much better life can be. Some people take it back, some don’t. What is ultimate is the outcome borne out of love”

Kaffy got married to Joseph Ameh in 2012 and they have two children together.