Senior Pastor of Dominion City Church, Lagos, David Ogbueli has spoken on sexual responsibility within marriage, revealing that he once sought herbal support to meet his marital obligations.
The cleric made the remarks during a marriage seminar organised by the church and shared on YouTube.
Sharing a personal experience, Pastor Ogbueli said he once had a friend whose father was from Northern Nigeria and was married to several wives.
“I have a friend, his dad is from the North, aged over hundred. He still has young wives and he handles them very well,” he said.
Ogbueli said the man often spoke to him about certain herbs believed to aid sexual performance.
“Whenever we are around, he will be giving me some advice about some herbs that they take. The North is blessed with some things that they take,” he said.
He explained that when the advice was first offered, he declined because of his position as a pastor.
“I said, ‘Sir, respectfully, I’m not interested,’” Ogbueli said.
He added that his stance changed when he turned 50 and began to reconsider the issue of meeting his wife’s needs.
“When I hit 50, I went back and said, ‘What is that thing you were telling me about?’” he said.
According to him, the man expressed surprise at his request.
“He said, ‘Pastor, are you the one asking?’” Ogbueli recalled.
Ogbueli said he made it clear that his interest was centred on fulfilling his marital responsibility.
“I said, ‘Forget that thing oh, pastor no reach here oh. Because you have to make madam happy. You have to do your job,’” he said.
However, the cleric stated that he had established boundaries regarding his health and physical capacity.
“The only one I’ve decided is that nobody will kill me. Second, third, fourth, fifth, no, forget it. I’m not in my 18 anymore,” he said.
Ogbueli advised men to take practical steps, including using herbs or medical aids where necessary, to satisfy their wives.
He said such actions should be seen as responsibility rather than a taboo subject.
Addressing the congregation, he questioned whether such issues should be discussed in church.
“Are we supposed to talk about this kind of thing in church or we should just keep quiet?” he asked.
He urged couples to prioritise their families, adding, “Take care of each other and take care of your family.”
Ogbueli said husbands have a duty to meet the needs of their wives within marriage.
The cleric said marriage is intended to provide companionship and connection.
He said failure to meet a partner’s needs could amount to violating the marital agreement.
The pastor also warned that neglecting marital duties could affect prayers, stating that husbands and wives are “joint heirs of the grace of life.”
David Ogbueli is the founder and senior pastor of Dominion City Church, a Christian ministry with branches across Nigeria and other countries.
His wife, Pastor Sarah Ogbueli, serves alongside him in the ministry and frequently participates in the church’s marriage and family teachings.
