Founder of Genevieve Magazine Betty Irabor has shared a reflection on an experience in her marriage with her husband, broadcaster Soni Irabor.
In an Instagram post on Sunday, Mrs Irabor recalled an incident that occurred after a disagreement between them.
She wrote, “This morning I found myself reflecting on that day I banged the door on my husband after one of those inconsequential tiffs. You know, the kind where we put our mouths in gear 5 and just go wielding… and then suddenly you’re like, Oops! Did I really say that?!
“As I stormed out of our bedroom in blind rage that morning the Holy Spirit arrested me right there at the door: ‘Clap for yourself, Betty! You must be very proud of the disrespect you just showed your husband. Now go back and apologize.’”
She said she eventually returned to apologise, but her husband initially asked her to leave the room.
Later in the day, she approached him again to apologise and he showed her concern rather than anger.
Irabor quoted her husband as saying, “Ah, Betty, get up, get up, remember your knees, you’ll hurt them.”
She added that the experience taught her that peace in marriage is more important than being right.
According to her, “Knowing when to retreat or surrender in a marital dispute is not a sign of weakness, it’s wisdom. It’s the understanding that peace is more valuable than being right.”
Betty and Soni Irabor got married in 1982 and have two children, Sonia and Rotimi.
